Is this cake eating? 10

[bustorama]

Oh, NLW, I bet it hurts and is frustrating to see them do this dance with each other isn't it. I was fortunate in that I didn't have the adolescent aspect of things (independence, sometimes oppositionality, etc.) in the context of our child sharing. So, I don't have good advice to offer. Hopefully, others do?

Is it possible your mediator might be able to suggest some sort of counselor to speak to the kids about wanting to balance their independence and spontaneity with also having a relationship with dad?

Or, perhaps they could also go ahead with plans with friends even during time with dad (in other words, if "Dad's time" doesn't mean that they HAVE TO actually be spending that time with dad and constrained away from their friends, maybe they wouldn't find it objectionable? It would just mean for those hours Dad would be like you -- sometimes they hang out with you during your 7 days of the week, sometimes they do their own thing. That would depend on Dad being gracious about his time, of course.