AS, thank you for your reply. I was starting to worry that nobody would read my long post… I think that I did some of DB naturally. He was working in another state when BD happened, he told me ILYBNILWY over the phone. We used to talk and text every day while he was on the road, so it was very difficult for me when the communication stopped. I was not doing crazy texting or anything like that. I pulled back almost immediately. Yes, I’ve noticed that when I told him (via e-mail or text, since he didn’t call me at all) that I missed him and wished he were home for some events, he stopped texting for a few days. When there was silence on my part he would find a reason to communicate. We still have a business together and his communication was mostly about that. So, I’m not holding my breath that he is interested in me. Except one time he forwarded me an e-mail with funny dog pictures. He didn’t send me this kind of funny e-mails for a long time.
I actually need to gain some weight . I’ve lost 15 LB in the first months after BD. I was always in good shape and I look about 10-15 years younger (this is what people say.) When my H told me that we both need to start our new lives, he said that I would have no problems finding somebody new, since I always get an attention everywhere I go. Yes, I’ve changed my clothes a little, letting my hair grow longer. I’ve been doing some things that I never did before (like going to Rodeo with the GF, taking dancing classes, etc.) I also was listening to some new music when my H was in the house. He made a comment later to my son’s GF that I didn’t like that kind of music before. He is kind wondering what I’m up to. He did ask our friend at our vacation home place if we had a good time when I was there. I don’t tell him everything and he doesn’t ask. But, I feel that this doesn’t matter to him as much as I would like to. As I mentioned, he is pretty stubborn when he makes his decisions. I’m afraid that he is going to stick to his decision to end the M no matter what.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
. I’ve lost 15 LB in the first months after BD. I was always in good shape and I look about 10-15 years younger (this is what people say.) When my H told me that we both need to start our new lives, he said that I would have no problems finding somebody new, since I always get an attention everywhere I go. Yes, I’ve changed my clothes a little, letting my hair grow longer. I’ve been doing some things that I never did before (like going to Rodeo with the GF, taking dancing classes, etc.) I also was listening to some new music when my H was in the house. He made a comment later to my son’s GF that I didn’t like that kind of music before. He is kind wondering what I’m up to. He did ask our friend at our vacation home place if we had a good time when I was there. I don’t tell him everything and he doesn’t ask. But, I feel that this doesn’t matter to him as much as I would like to. As I mentioned, he is pretty stubborn when he makes his decisions. I’m afraid that he is going to stick to his decision to end the M no matter what.
