I am not so sure that I was mind reading. I mean she pretty much came right out and said that it bothered her that her friends and family were sharing time with me, jealousy possible?
My apologies, the way you phrased it sounded like you were assuming that's what she was thinking, but if she said it then it's not mind-reading Yes, could definitely be jealousy, or even anger in that she may feel like you're lining up her family against her.
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In retrospect, it did sound like I was backtracking, and I definitely didn't need to reiterate it again.
That's OK, I was mentioning it more for future reference for when an activity you might want to invite her to comes up again. I was just reiterating what it says in DR which is basically to make the plans for yourself, then tell your W she's welcome to come along if she wants but make it clear you're doing it whether she does or not. I hope that's more clear. You're just trying to make the point that it's your life and you're enjoying it with or without her, and also to drive home the point that it's not a "date" if she goes.
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With that being said, what are some "non-pursuing" ways of showing her that I have changed, which by the way I am definitely doing?
Have you read the 5 Love Languages? There are some helpful tips for ways you can show love or fill your W's love tank without pursuing. But you're right, it's a balancing act trying not to cross the line into pursuit.
Yes, could definitely be jealousy, or even anger in that she may feel like you're lining up her family against her.
