I saw that this would be a cheeseless tunnel, so I quickly ended the conversation by simply saying, "if there is a problem with you and your cousin, you should maybe talk with your cousin. I'm going to let you go. I have some stuff I need to do with D before bedtime", and I said my goodbye.
PERFECT.
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
Within 2 minutes she sends me this text....
"Sorry I shoulnd't put that on you. It was my choice to leave you, so I need to deal with the fact that I will lose some people in my life. Have a good night. I am just going to take our mutual friends slash family off my news feed so I don't have to get hurt by it anymore. No biggy".
See?
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
"I understand your feelings. Actually, I was going to ask if you would like to go to the show with us".
This isn't a catastrophe but I would not have sent any response.
BTW, silence is also a response and often an extremely potent and appropriate one.
Now that you are living apart, silence mixed in with sparing and sporadic contact is going to be one of your most powerful of tools.
However, the person who benefits most from the silence and from getting a life (you must have both) is you.
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)