Some progress after 2+ months of DBing

[Wendylon]

Thank you very much, Regretful, Tori and Rubytuesday.

I like the thought of treating H like a distant cousin! Thank you Tori for suggestions for the holiday. Thank you, Regretful, for telling me ab your H's shenanigans. Our Hs are uncannily similar. I don't know though ab finding an retentive anal man . I bet there are some undesirable qualities that go along with that trait!

Last night went v well. I'm going to try DBing throughout supper tonight out and on the family weekend away.

Turns out H did have drinks with his friend the other night and he reported thar they both think that their wives have changed! It appears that we've both stopped 'being on their cases'. He was trying to figure out when the change happened with me. I know it was Aug 14 when I decided I'd either have to S or DB and detach like crazy. H thinks it may be in the last year or two!!! It's so funny how he's rewritten history. We had a terrible year culminating in the fiasco the night before my birthday when he took POW to the theatre (after lying about it) on 13 Aug.

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Later:

We had a v pleasant time at dinner--no tense or awkward moments. He leaned over to kiss me on the lips after opening my card and then as we left the restaurant he kissed me on the lips again and said how lucky he was to be with me. So not a bad evening.

We have a new printer that is sitting in our front hall. I'm not asking when he'll set it up. (He's the IT person in our household.) I also haven't brought up the question of ££. Still none from him in joint account for Jan (as I expected). There is no point me bringing it up though. I can carry us for a bit financially and he will get the loan sorted out at some point and he'll catch up. Normally, as a point of principle, I would have mentioned it.

Since we've got home, he's retreated to his cave/study.

I may not be able to post much from our time away. Hope everyone here has a good DBing weekend!