You should click my name and then go to posts. I have a very similar situation and have come a long way. My W was honest enough to tell me about EA before it turned physical. You could learn A LOT reading ALL of my two threads because I have some real veterans who have done thus successfully helping me. I will also post some tips and things to understand later tonight for you.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
