My W is also not a pursuer so I've been struggling with the exact same things. Heck today I've flip flopped on my strategy 3 different times while at work. I'm afraid if I do nothing then nothing will happen and we'll just proceed right into D but any pursuing I do won't go well.
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
I am having a hard time balancing between "lovingly detached" and just being stand offish or cold. I just fear that if I don't show kindness or interest, just right, She will interpret is as chasing and pull away even farther. I need help with this.
Looking forward to hearing what the vets say to this.
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