thank you, everyone! It was awesome to see all the posts filled with kind words, I don't really hear anything kind these days.

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They've basically checked out of the relationship long before you get the BD. Having an MLCer living at home is difficult and the walking on eggshells affects everyone
My H explained this to me yesterday, how he was gone way before he met ea, and before we were even showing signs of having issues. Again, saying that none of this is my fault, I have done nothing wrong to deserve his sh!t.

I have a lot of thinking to do. I will move my new thread to MLC and beging my journey with what I hope to be a stronger sense of what I want, and who I am, and what am I going to do to come out of this ok!

Thanks again, dber's!

The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!