LBS gearing up for the long haul

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I think we're talking different timeframes, maybe...

A glaring issue between us is she lives w/OM. If she minimizes my feelings about that, it will be hard not to resent.

I'm not talking about digging up the past, but about validating my feelings about what is currently going on.

One of the things I've learned here is that whatever she's feeling, is real to her. Validating it helps her get through it, or at least not feel need to defend and pull back.

The same must be true for me. I know now is not the time. I think, because of what I've read, that having my feelings validated will help me process them.

But, that's not my focus...W seems willing to figure out how to come back. C said get the issues/hurts on paper. I'm pretty certain I don't want to go to C session w/W and list all my pains. My focus will still be on being a man she can come back to, keeping the road home smooth.

If C asks me what some of my hurts are at this 1st session, my inclination is to resist.