so many changes to start your new year. And still so much to figure out as we move forward. Glad your boys are enjoying the home life more and you as well.
In regard to your s-i-l, I'd say put the focus on the second part about maintaining the relationship with her. I would guess the grammar about who was leaving whom was not even a consideration of hers and that her focus was to compare that fact that the 2 of you will still have a relationship regardless of the marriage ending. Just don't over look the spirit of the message for the "letter" of the message...
Good luck with the garage sale. I've often wanted to do that myself even if my W is still in the house!
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms