Besides, the piecing people are these people, too. And what better advice can you get than from people that have BTDT? I'm sure it will be great, though a little slower, perhaps. And you can always jump back to Newcomers if you need to. We're all newcomers in some sense, right?
SS, congrats, that's an incredible development that you're into piecing now It sounds like it would be a good time to start MC, have you considered it? I'm sure there are a lot of issues that the two of you need to work through, and it's going to take a good while to rebuild the trust too. Also check into RetroV if it's in your area. Good luck!
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
Thanks for dropping in and all the well wishes! CV is my first advisor over in piecing so I guess she's right in suggesting all of you over here are great resources for guidance.
I know we will need MC. I suggested R'ville several month back and didn't get a clear answer from H then. I don't think sitting with a MC will work for H because the last time we did that (about 10 years ago), we were seeking help for s'kid problems (really help with different parenting styles; Disney Dad vs "wicked" stepmother). H said he felt the MC required all the changes necessary to be his (go figure)!
So, he's working until April in another city. I'll be over there a lot but I may wait until he's back home on a regular basis and the weather is warmer to suggest R'ville again. Maybe we can incorporate it into an extended vacation since its not offered in our city.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
hi ss, i am so so happy that you are working on your M. i know it must be scary and confusing and overwhelming..but i believe that we trigger our unhealed hurts in intimate Rs and hence they can also bring great healing and growth.. all the best to you sweet ss. ((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
It sounds like it would be a good time to start MC, have you considered it? I'm sure there are a lot of issues that the two of you need to work through, and it's going to take a good while to rebuild the trust too. Also check into RetroV if it's in your area. Good luck!