caigy, I'm sorry that your h and his mother were acting out Nedw Years Eve, but none of us know what your h had told his mother. Blood is always thicker than water when it comes to drawing the line in the sand.
It appears that your h is very resentful and jealous of the time and relationship you have w/your children and he and his mother didn't want them calling you. Your son is a very smart cookie and knew just how to reach you because they were desparate to get out that h@ll hole.
As to who needs counseling? I don't think your son needs it at all. In fact, In think your h and his mother need to be committed to the nearest mental ward for observation and shock treatments. That is absolutely no way to treat family, much less young adults and children. Yes, your h is a grown man and he can do whatever he wants, but that doesn't mean emotionally abusing his children, nor does that give his mother free rein to abuse them emotionally either.
I'm glad your children arrived back home safely. I would definitely document this incident because you just never know when you will need to present this date/time/and behavior to your lawyer.
What to do about nutty grandma? Consider the source and it would be a cold day in h@ll before my children went to visit her again.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
