H came for supper. Stunned by h lack of emotion ! Just don't get it!
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h came for Christmas dinner at our daughters,then they all came to my place to open gifts here. H stayed awhile after everyone left ,then he left.he phoned a little while later to see if he could come back for a hot toddy because we didn't have our Christmas drink together.
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He came back for coffee and breakfast this morning. I still don't understand why he won't come back here to live.
Read my post to you again, here it is:
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You mentioned he moved out 14 months ago, that's a long time. I'm assuming you've been doing more or less the same thing in that time and nothing has changed. Per DR you have to take stock of your progress now and then, and if there isn't any progress then change something up. If you're tired of being friends then it might be time to tell H you don't want him dropping by unannounced anymore. A lot of the old timers here will tell you that your spouse needs to learn to miss you before they'll think about returning, but if you see them all the time they never learn to miss you. If H can drop by whenever he wants and comes by frequently for breakfast, then he won't miss you because he knows you're always available. Think about changing that up.
You are engaging in "more of the same" behavior. You keep doing the same thing over and over again and are expecting different results. Do you want to save your M? Then QUIT doing more of the same!!! Read DR, read Sandi's DB tips at the top of the forum, make changes and make them now!! Do something different and monitor the results! Quit feeling sorry for yourself and swing into action!
