OK. Here's your answer. Take your daughter for some one on one time for a while, instead of hanging out with your W. Do what works. That clearly did not work.
You got upset about minutiae. Hello? When she said she wanted to get home and do laundry that IS not wanting to watch a movie with you, so when she wrote it to someone on a text it was the truth and had already been clearly stated to you. You're picking arguments, not attractive.
She said she needs space, give it to her. Give her more than she asked for....like I said before, maybe she will come looking back. Right now you're not giving her any reason to. And you're not listening to her, you're right about that.
Sorry to hear that you downplayed all of her complaints. If you were perfect then you have nothing to work on, and that is not empowering. Listen to them more, look for the truth. DB says believe none of what they say, and that needs to be taken with a grain of salt. You were an equal partner in getting your marriage to this point, and if you can find grains of truth that hit home, then you can get to work, and trust me you will feel a lot better about yourself and your situation when you know you're improving from it.
You want a confirmation that she's going to try to reconnect. So does everyone here when they first get here, and so did I. You want to buy the DB book so you can save your marriage, and come here for the tips and tricks to make it happen. Sorry, it doesn't work that way. There were never any guarantees. Bus accident, stroke, or any number of things can take away your chance at a happy marriage. You might not have had more time with her even if this hadn't happened. It did happen, and you need to get through it and pick yourself back up and make yourself better, whether it's for her or for your next love. There are no guarantees your W will come back.
I think I did a great job of DBing. I worked like crazy on myself, I followed the 37 rules, I gave my H space and time, literally tried to do this by the book. My marriage is still slipping through my fingers. One person cannot make a marriage.
Focus on you. Don't see her for a while.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
