Well, this morning while at his hotel, ( he stays in a hotel for work), she called his room. Set the tone for the rest of the day for me. He thinks they can remain friends, I told him not possible knowing how it makes me feel. That I can not heal or move forward knowing she contacts him. Asked him what I am supposed to think when he told me he wrote a farewell letter, said goodbye and no contact ...now knowing that she contacts him. Not sure anymore, he said he is never leaving me and that she knows that, but he figures they can be friends. He can be friends with his exes...maybe, but that was before this affair, and before we met and married, had a family, etc. Tried going dark...think now it is time to go big time dark. I love this man to death..but I can't do this. His words: " I don't understand how she can be a threat to you when she knows I am not leaving you ever.That I love you and will always love you." I told him how can I be good with them being friends, knowing what she wants still, that her feelings will never change...what she tried to do and I feel is still trying to do. And that with him being friends only succeeds in pushing me away..and that I feel like giving up.Are men really that freaking dumb?
