My first thread got locked. I guess that I can look at that as a mini milestone???...haha
Unfortunately, I just had a micro run-in the the W. She phoned to speak with our D and wanted to speak with me before hanging up. We discussed my daughter losing her first tooth, some school stuff and the idea of me watching our daughter on monday's after school until my wife gets off work. The conversation was very upbeat and positive. We even laughed a couple times.....Until....She brought up the fact that her cousin and hubby had visited me this week. Her tone was instantly different, bordering on bitchy. She was obviously upset that members of her family were not taking her side and boycotting our friendship. She was also upset that I had made some plans for a group of friends to get together to see "rock of ages" at a local theater, a couple weeks from now. She found all of this out by viewing her cousins Facebook page, where it was prominently displayed. My wife has unfriended me long ago on her Facebook, but I thought she might still be secretly stalking me in some way or other. During this part of the conversation, I was still pretty positive and upbeat. I didn't feel like an arguement was pending, and I was trying to stay focused. I saw that this would be a cheeseless tunnel, so I quickly ended the conversation by simply saying, "if there is a problem with you and your cousin, you should maybe talk with your cousin. I'm going to let you go. I have some stuff I need to do with D before bedtime", and I said my goodbye. Within 2 minutes she sends me this text.... "Sorry I shoulnd't put that on you. It was my choice to leave you, so I need to deal with the fact that I will lose some people in my life. Have a good night. I am just going to take our mutual friends slash family off my news feed so I don't have to get hurt by it anymore. No biggy".
I invited about 30 people to attend this show, some she knows some she doesn't. Her cousin was included and was the very first peron to confirm that they would attend. I thought about her text for a bit and replied with this...
"I understand your feelings. Actually, I was going to ask if you would like to go to the show with us".
She replied...
"That's ok. you guys will have fun. I need to study anyway".
I ended the conversation with....
It will be fun. If you change your mind, the offer is out there. Have a good night"
I was a little bit flushed with emotion after the conversation, but NOTHING like I have been in the past. I feel like I held my composure and did the best DB job that I could, given the situation. Wouldn't mind hearing what the pros think
