So don't do anything until you feel ready. There are no rules about this.

Someone I work with asked me today if I went to the GC with my husband, I just said "no, with my oldest son."

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss