So new drama. H's lawyer told mine that at tomorrow's temporary hearing they are going to try to make it the "final" hearing. I am to move out of the home by February 1st and I am to stop all efforts to inhibit his ability to refinance. H told his attorney there have been incidents of violence caused by me and the home with me in it is unsafe for the children. They are also demanding the restriction on the significant other be lifted.
This is rich. Please please please comment friends and pull me out of the crazy of H's world!!! Are his attorneys crazy too???
Yep, par for the course my dear. Your lawyer is very smart to have expected it.
What they'll do is start by putting the line wayyyyy over the top. That way when you start to negotiate you start off by defending. Negotiation 101 to put your opponent off-balance and on the defensive like that.
The lawyer doesn't care - he gets paid regardless. Kind of like Vegas - the house always wins.
Mine tried a few things like that. Pretty funny looking back, but it really is atrocious behavior considering.
Your H will NOT be happy no matter what happens. You will likely not be happy no matter what happens.
Keep focused on what is important - you and your kids. Keep focused on what you need to get out of this transaction. Keep listening to your lawyer - he'll know what is a real accusation and what is not.
Be at peace WH. This is an expected and normal part of this process choice he's made.
Oh, and trying to move things up to his timetable? Also classic negotiation tactics. Follow your lawyer's advice - he knows what's going on and knows what he's doing. But remember you're a team and you'll need to keep your wits about you. There will be plenty of time later to reflect back on what is happening and what happened and the OW is doing/planning etc.
Peace,
AJ
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