New Year, New Life (19 months)

[Sweetbriar]

I know in my situation my H hasnt told anyone except his family. No one at his job knows the real truth....they dont even know Im pregnant! I know so many of his work friends through parties at our house and work functions and it has crossed my mind so many times to email them all and let them know about H's A and how he left his family and Im pregnant too! BUT, where would that get me and would these people even care? I just would feel better if they knew the scumbag H is...but it wouldnt change a thing!

All of our close couple friends know that he walked out...and he has no contact with any of them. (guilt? Embaressement? Shame?) who knows...

His family has completely supported him because when he left, he told them that he was unhappy, that the girls and I disrespected him, and that I got us into debt!!! I was shocked at these allegations! I take some part...100% ...but the things he told his family, and OW were lies to justify his wrong doings. In fact, after talking to OW in the beginning, you would have thought I was awful...he painted a picture for her that made it look like he was a victim and she was saving him from a bad marriage, not ruining his good marriage!

Ad..I agree that your SIL will know the full story soon enough and its not worth a email back to correct her, especially since she was so nice to you.

A little bit of info on my SIL...(H's Brothers wife)...we were close and our kids are almost the exact same age with only weeks apart in birthdays..I was the one who made sure we always saw the m and kept he contact between cousins (all the bday parties, events, summer hang outs...etc) but when I filed Sep papers because I had to protect myself, my SIL texted me and said that she couldnt go to our planned breakfast with the kids because I was "playing dirty". Now, I know this is coming from either H or his bro who are both probably uncomfortable with us remaining friends, but it hurt my feelings big time and we have not talked since. Her H cheated on her years ago with a young girl he worked with but stopped it immediately and changed jobs when they were found out. It never got as far as my story, BUT, I thought for sure she would know how I was feeling and instead, I felt she turned her back on me.

Im glad that your SIL is willing to remain friends. My kids suffer because they do not see their cousins and when they did at Christmas time with H, the cousins didnt even talk to them because I dont think they knew what to say. This would not have happened if we remained friends, as we both would have seen to it that the kids remained close:(