When tapestries of life get tangled in the loom.

[bustorama]

You still need to work on listening (not defending, not justifying, not explaining your point of view) and empathizing. I get that you see things from your point of view, and I totally understand why you do.

Remember how revolutionary the departure from the geocentric to the heliocentric view of the universe was in science (and yet the helicoentric view is wrong as well)? You are still in the Bruce-centric view. Launch yourself off Planet Bruce, and try to envision yourself on Planet WAS or, perhaps even better, Planet S. And accept that that view of the universe is equally valid. Different views. Same universe.

That list of "debasements" in your WAS' divorce filing? Those capture your W's view of your marriage at this time. To her, they are not "debasements," they are her reality. I get that they are not your reality. But, they are most definitely hers. How would you feel if someone told you over and over that your reality does not matter? Or is wrong?

Get it, Bruce.