So - there is debt? Maybe dealing with the financial situation first, would free you up to make other choices later in your personal life. How is the debt your fault? Do you have a shopping addiction or some such?
Have you ever listened to Dave Ramsey? While I don't agree with his politics, I think his approach to personal finance is very helpful for people in debt. If you could get your H on board as well, you might be surprised at how much headway you could make.
