In response to above, I have said that I wanted to work on marriage but H said he was done.
I have also said that I love him and want him to be happy and that it takes two to make a marriage work and he was unhappy.
Now we are talking more and I am taking responsibility for my part, I am back to h and I separated in September.
Unfortunately, the, "H left me" phase put a lot of friends on my side. But a lot did not exclude H until he took up with another separated mutual acquaintance only a few weeks later. Then he kind of did himself in. I don't think telling the truth is ever a bad thing. Even if H was one to leave, you could say," we thought it would be best if H left" you know, if you don't really want to say the so and so packed up and skedaddled....jerk.
