wishing,
I am so sorry to hear this. Yes, his lawyer is out for money only. Your h is a lot like mine. My xh told his lawyer that I had knocked him out, tied him up and set all of his clothes on fire in the driveway. The PI advised my lawyer that there was no way in h@ll I could have done this as my xh is taller and heavier than I am and my drive way is black topped.

His lawyer is only after his money and, of course, even if they don't think what their client is telling them is the truth, they will still side w/them because they are the clients.

If there was such violence, did he have a restraining order? Where the policy contacted to come out and referee? How come he's been spending time there? How much taller and heavier is your h? If the children are unsafe in your presence, then the burden of proof is this...I would get my children's physician to provide a statement that they have never been in his office with injuries. Also, if you were so crazy to do them harm, wouldn't there be hospital reports and police reports as well as child advocates coming there to check on the children. These are things you need to address.

I think the February 1st date is far too soon for you to move out...where will you go? You can't get an apartment this quickly.

I honestly do not see this as the final hearing...there are way too many issues to hash out and yes, he's setting you up. Don't allow this stuff to cause you to panic. You need to stay calm and deal w/this in a very calm, business like manner. You need to show him and his lawyer that you are a grown, sane woman who hasn't done a thing to hurt her children. If worse comes to worse, the children may have to come in and tell them how you are as a mother (I hope not).

Your h is over the top here and is grasping at straws to not have to pay children support. Get w/your lawyer before the hearing and if you can't do this, I would not agree that this is the final hearing. He's hoping to rattle you so badly that you'll screw up in the hearing...don't go there! Stay strong.

I'm in your corner and will be praying for you.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.