Agree with above and tell family to back off. My words were everyone makes their own decisions and I am good where I am, so please cut H some slack. Our friends are very judgemental, although I know I did not play the gracious LBS card the first couple of months. It is only now that I can see he hurts as much as I do.
I am glad W is confused...I know that sounds a bit strange lol! But people have to figure out things for themselves and it seems she is figuring out that she has to figure it out.
I think all our spouses want us to be assholes, makes their lives easier, makes staying away easier. In my case, H wants me to find someone so he can ease his guilt and then tell himself he made right decision. It comes in all shapes and sizes, the justifications and reasons. We just have to look at ourselves, change ourselves and walk our own paths
