My W told him that she is unhappy and does not know why or even if she is unhappy with me. Makes my head spin whenever I hear this.
Why? That's actually a really good sign. She's starting to realize that maybe you're not responsible for her being unhappy. It'll still take her a while to sort it out, so it's really important to give her plenty of time and space right now.
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Everyone in the family has been saying pretty much the same thing to her, slow down and make sure this is what you really want.
Well I'm sure their intentions are good, but you should really talk to them and tell them ALL to back off! They're unintentionally putting pressure on her and you will get the blame for it (it's easy for her to decide you put them up to it). EVERYONE needs to give her time and space, not just you.
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It's nice to know they are not pressuring her either way.
Oh but they are!
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I talked with most of them and asked them to not pressure her right after BD.
Good, but it sounds like they need a reminder! ANY R talks are pressure. They need to cease and desist.
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I have to focus on me and let her figure out that I am not the reason she is unhappy.
Makes my head spin whenever I hear this.