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[AJM]

Queue the jokes about being up life(a creek) without a paddle (paddle)?

H does not like change, however. Imagine in your most annoying, whiny voice saying, "But change is h-a-r-d....!"

That's projecting, CV. It is your perspective and it is likely based on what you've seen. But I will point out he has changed over the years and so have you. Regardless of whether or not you embrace change, you will change. So will he. It's inevitable and immutable for a living being. I don't make the rules, but I do have to follow most of them

The only real question is what your motivation and input is going to be that causes you to change. Negative input (thoughts) or positive input (thoughts). How we perceive the world is directly influenced by our thoughts and how we perceive actions around us. More succinctly, we are a product of our past - our past experiences, our past thoughts, our past "norm", our past values, etc..and how we perceived those at that point in time. i.e. we "learn" our behaviors and thoughts.

But it's just that - past. It's how we got here, but it's not the end of our story, so it's not who we are. It's just how we filter events that happen around us, to us, and for us. (too much philosophy? I always wanted to be a stand-up philosopher)

What changed from the time you met him to the time you wanted him to divorce you or you wanted to leave him?

I'd rather not hear about how this applies to him any longer, if you don't mind. I'd rather hear how it applies to you and how you see it.

Peace,
AJ