Typical LBH, trying to DB

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So today is a rough day for me. W and I have a MC session on Friday and I'm going back and forth on whether to let her know that I'm aware of OM and her affair.
Pros - Its out in the open and she can't pretend that the R doesn't exist.
- it would let me take a stand for myself and show her that I want to be respected.
- it would allow me to establish boundaries: that I won't listen to her talk about OM, that I do not want the marital money to finance her trips to see OM

Cons. - it might push her even further to OM and away from any feelings she still has for me
- it might take away the time I have right now to show her my GAL & 180s
- she might continue to deny OM

I know she's in the new relationship fog with OM right now and that's going to color everything she's thinking and feeling. Telling her I know would certainly be a shock and it would change our dynamic. Is that change something I should make happen or can I live with knowing and being patient?

I haven't been doing the LRT yet; I've just started GAL and 180. Maybe I need to LRT regardless of how I choose to handle her R with OM. I think I'm also confused right now because she asked that I come sit next to her and she laid her head on my lap...and physical affection is my primary LL.

Ultimately it comes down to doing what is going to make me a better person. I guess I have to do some soul searching to figure just what that is.