Sounds like a good exchange, other than that you are being pushy and inquisitive about Jerry. Cut it out. Who cares who her ride was with? She doesn't want to be with you, that is the main and only point, and from then until she says she does want to be with you (and then you can set boundaries about what that means), ignore her antics and who "makes her happy" and drives her around.
Ignore it and she may get curious and come looking for you. Pay attention to it, ask about it, show that you care about it, and it will drive her further away.
Have you read the 37 rules? Maybe reread them.
Also, do what works. If going to McD's leaves you feeling content and doesn't cause her to back away from you, and doesn't seem to make things worse, then it's probably good. It is definitely good for your daughter.
Glad you're looking for work. My H moved out and I have two teenage boys - they will be learning to shave and drive and date and he is couch surfing at a friend's acting like he isn't a grown man with a job and family. It is disgusting to me. I cannot fathom a man not doing everything he can to provide stability and a safe and wholesome home for his children. So I'm just a little bit biased on that subject right now. But if you want to be attractive to your W or anyone else, take one step at a time and get yourself into an adult lifestyle suitable for parenting a child. If your W pulls stunts like locking a three year old in a room so she can go out, winding up in random naked guys' closets, something bad can happen to your daughter - I don't even want to think about the harm that can come to her. She needs a stable home, and it may end up being with you, please consider that and get yourself ready.
There is a horror story on here of a child molested by a parent's roomie. You have got to think about where she's going to be living and who's coming and going from there.
It is probably overwhelming to be looking for a job, working on yourself, grieving the loss of your wife, and countless issues all at once. I think you're hanging in there very well. If it seems overwhelming try prioritizing and just doing the one best thing at a time. Job interviews sound pretty high on the list. Getting your W back right now, pretty low.
Take care, adinva
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
