I didn't put a stop to changing, CV. I put a stop to changing for her "whims". I was authentic the entire time because I wanted to do things to please my mate. But when I realized her happiness wasn't something I could be responsible for, I changed for me and no longer for her. Until then I danced like a puppet (btw, she did notice the changes. Fought very hard to not allow them as well. Fast forward several years, she still is hyper-aware of what I do or don't do, even though we don't talk. She isn't "done" processing yet to her satisfaction, CV. Not sure her new husband is going to be thrilled with that later on...)
We don't stop changing until we...well, stop changing. Coincidentally, we stop breathing at the same time we stop changing making it a one-way street
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
