AJ, it sounds like you really had some things to deal with. I was just confused because you say we all change, we all have to change, continuously, but then you stated you put a stop to it because your W kept asking you to change.
If you were here today in the midst of your problems with your W, I'm not sure how I would apply your own advice to you, regarding perspective and change, etc.
KD, I checked out the post and the video. I can't answer what you're trying to do, that's internal to you. My perspective is that short of God's own judgment, there is no right or wrong, only opinion and perspective. Even if I agree with you, it doesn't make you right, it only means we have the same opinion.