I don't think you're completely detached, but keep working on that.
Are you angry, are you hurting? It's OK to admit that, just don't make decisions based on those emotions.
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Should I continue staying dim while staying at house and let the process continue and just continue to work on myself and enjoy the kids? I can't see being the super nice guy anymore that I've been the last 4-6 weeks.
What does the opposite of "continuing to be nice" look like? Be respectful, be courteous, show your kids the person you want to be, model that for them.
Yes, continue to be there for your kids and continue working on you.
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She's admitted to seeing my changes and I think knows what she's giving up.
Try not to worry or imagine what she's thinking. There's no way you can know unless she tells you and that might not be true. Let go of that.
Are you the person you want to be? That's the important question.
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If I'm honest it's really hard being around her now though and it feels like a cloud is around us when she's around.
Try not to project your feelings on to your kids. She is their mother and will be for a long time. They love her and this is very hard for them. Support and love them through this.
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Kids and I have so much more fun when it's just us which is why I'm considering leaving once custody is signed off.
What does this mean?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
