I think you're off moderation already. Thanks for posting on my thread. I thought I would visit yours.
Your sitch has been stagnant for a while. DBing is about doing something different. Next time he says he's going to stop by, say you're busy and offer another option. GALing is important even if you don't feel like doing it. I also feel sad when I see the so-called "happy couples" but you don't know their story. Anyone who had spotted me and my H during our most recent outings (past few weeks) would've thought we were really happy, but he filed for D and is not changing his mind. So you never know...
