Subguy and Ruby, thank you, as always, for being there for me :-) Thank you for being proud of me and reminding me I'm not alone.
I am the only one who allows my H's actions get to me like this. Now I know him so much better and what is going through his mind.
One important thing for all of us to realize is that assuming someone would or would not behave a certain way bc we would or would not do the same is a mistake. For example, I would've never gone and tried to make out with my H if I was clear I wanted a D. I would've never asked him to spend all this time with me. I would've never dated anyone while my S was still thinking we were just separated and had hopes to save our M. But my H is not me. I learned that the hard way. And somehow I still tend to forget the lesson...
