Hey no problem EI if I can misspell the founding father of India you can misspell my screen name. It was a pretty funny misspelling as some of us here would attest, sorry, inside joke. I'm a wine drinker.
I think you will make progress if you reread your question and every single time you say "I want her to..." - change it. You cannot make her do anything. The more you try the less progress you'll make. You can't make her understand anything, think anything, communicate any way you prefer, or anything at all.
Deal only in what YOU can do. You be clear, you be business like, you be kind and compassionate and thoughtful and protect your own boundaries.
I think from what I've read here today you have a lot of insight into what you'd like to have done differently, and you have a very healthy amount of humility and vulnerability that to me is a very good sign that you will do well. Because as unfair as it might be, you are the only one you can work on.
You decide what you accept and you set boundaries to protect yourself. You must not allow someone to beat you with a trashcan. You must not let yourself be bothered with behind the scenes conniving and whispering. Just be a man that only a fool would leave. That's all you can do, and it's the best thing to do.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
