Finally approaching the starting line!

[littleGTO]

Hi, eyes,
Just wanted to comment on a couple of things you said...

"Part of it is that I want to share my life with someone, someone to carry some of the load. Isn't that why we marry to begin with"

I think you are missing the boat as to WHY most people get married & it isn't to "share the load." Being a single parent IS a lot of work, but really think about why you want a partner in life. IF sharing the load is your top reason, then you aren't ready at all.

YOu are right in that you need to be okay on your own first before you will be ready for a new R. It is good you are questioning whether you really want to wait anymore.

It sounds like your W's words/actions still affect you a lot. That's okay, it's part of the process. Let yourself FEEL the feelings you have, but try not to react to them in front of your W.

That's my new goal w H--when something he does/says sets me off & rubs me the wrong way I am going to try to take a deep breath, act "as if", respond in an upbeat manner OR walk away.

ad had a great definition of detachment. Don't rush the process. It will happen for you when YOU are ready. And, it's okay that you still care.