New Year, New Life (19 months)

[littleGTO]

Wow, ad,

I like your attitude!

Do you think that H's moving out has made all the difference in the world for you being where you are? It has only been a month (less than) since your H moved out yet you seem to be in such a good place so quickly. (Well, I realize your whole sitch has NOT been quick at all, but I mean this phase of it.

I soooooooo understand a lot of what you said in your last post. I have some of the exact same thoughts. H left emotionally a long time a go, it just took longer for him to leave physically.

"Sad to think I cannot teach him that my life partnership changed, my future as I had grown to love and want it died, my financial security disappeared, my kids' dad walked out. My BEING as a wife died. And I would give up all the stuff just to have his emotional attachment back."

Stuff is just stuff. I would also give anything to have H back emotionally.

Just b/c you are doing okay does NOT mean you were/are okay that your M broke up...in fact that is the very reason you came HERE. You've shown that didn't want this b/c you fought for your M (& still probably would if H were to see the light of day).

I think you are exactly right when you said that this experience makes you rethink your purpose in life. It is amazing what this experience really makes you reflect upon.

Thanks for your awesome insight.