Aw, JustJudy, that stinks. I've been on a rollercoaster lately letting my expectations go where they would and feeling angry when they weren't met. I'm not so sure that's always a bad thing. I think for the newcomers here it helps them to get started on db'ing the right way. But in fact a H who doesn't call his D's on New Year's day is a disappointment. I would like to validate that for you.
A lot of people have been trying to help me understand the other side, like that your mom and your H likely have confusing feelings of their own going on and they're uncomfortable or whatever. Well cry me a river.
I would say try not to project your feelings onto your D's though. They'll have plenty of their own but find out what they are and meet them there. It's OK for you to feel hurt that your H isn't doing things you'd like a dad to do, but if your D's are fine they're fine. They may sometime be upset about things you think are fine or understandable. You've got to be 100% there for them, wherever that really is.
(((hugs)))
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
