I read AJ's post above and a few things popped out at me.
First, both AJ and myself have labelled our spouses as MLC.
Having said that, there are common behaviours of a MLCer, a WAS, AND a LBS. They happen during the disconnect. These are the reasons, justifications, rationalizations, etc that we use to resolve Cognitive Dissonance.
AJ's description of his W's need to prove he was not perfect has an important context. It is not that AJ is suggesting he is perfect. Rather, it is that he believes his wife truly did believe he was perfect, for what ever reason she originally wanted to believe that.
Also, he explains how she went about to work through that. It appears that it all happened in a short period of time, but by my guess (I don't quite know his back story enough) it happened over a one or two year period.
I wouldn't describe my W's behaviour in quite so dramatic a way, and yet... she too spent a lot of time during and prior to BD, attempting to prove me wrong. I won't say I was right all the time. I'm very happy to hear alternative perspectives. Yet, she even had the kids convinced that I always had to be right.
So not true. In the end, I found myself defending that so much (proving that I needed to be right), that I really believed that I was going crazy and there was something wrong with me.
Anyhow, the point is, there is no right or wrong. No one is infalable. I have no doubt your H could come up with a laundry list on you, just as you have on him.
Now... am I trying to be right saying the above? Am I trying to make you wrong?
