A newcomer's story

[justjudy]

Darn, I wrote a whole post about expectations and it didn't submit! Actually I can see some humour in that....I was writing about reducing expectations to avoid getting hurt...maybe I shouldn't have expected my post to show...haha!,

I wrote about being disappointed about my mothers lack of empathy to my sitch and how she was pretty unenthusiastic about coming alongfor lunch I morrow for D10's 11th birthday.

Also about (stupidly) expecting H would call my 2 daughters yesterday to wish them happy new year and bing disappointed for them when he didn't

But basically the lesson for me is twofold
1) lower my expectations, especially if I have just assumed rather than communicated those expectations
2) be an awesome parent to my two girls to minimise any feelings of neglect, abandonment etc they might be getting via H's "out of sight, out of mind" attitude. I never want my children to feel unloved or unworthy or unimportant so now it's up to me to make sure that doesn't happen