I think you are right. I am making strides as far as my jealousy goes. After my talk with her and acceptance of TOTAL responsibility for getting us where we are, I have been able to let go of a lot of feelings I had about wanting to constantly know what she is doing. I'm sure I'll have to read your rules many times to drill them into my head so I dont make too many missteps.
One reason to ask her back is the financial situation. I dont know how long I can stay here in our house by myself and she will have to move out of her situation at some point. I know I dont love her like I used to because I dont get those warm feelings just when I see her like I used to. But the fact remains I still deeply care for her and feel maybe it would help if she could actually see the changes that I have made to myself and that our home would be a safe place for her. What kind of ground rules are you talking about?
I know it will be tough but I'm willing to do whatever it takes. I cant imagine anything being that much worse than what I've already gone through.
On a good note for me, I am reconnecting with old friends and actually got out for the first time in months to go to a friend's New Years Eve party. Had a great time and met a lot of new people, though still hurting from the beer and shooters. Kinda gives you a boost to know that if things dont go your way there is life after.
