Just reading Seeking Answers' thread on mlc about how/when mlcers start to have a bit of insight into what is going on.
It occurred to me that my stbx has shown a pattern of going backwards, if anything.
That is, When this all started ( at BD at least), he said he was 'so confused'.
He'd interact with us as a family and everything would seem fine and happy; we even ML.
Said he just needed 'space'.
Many times he apologised for being such a 'grumpy sh-t', saying none of this was my fault.
Referred to himself as 'a failure' and 'a scumbag'.
He cried every time he tried to talk about separating our finances and said he would always take care of me and the kids.
16 months on, and everything is my fault.
Threatening me with 'losing his goodwill' if i don't agree to settle on his undocumented proposal about our finances.
Refusing to have anything to do with me as 'we cannot interact together'.
Denying responsibility for shared costs for the children and 'forgetting' about major debts he incurred to family members.
It's as if he started out by having some insight into what he was doing, but after more than a year of living with OW, he is more firmly entrenched in replay than ever.
Is this a typical pattern, does anyone know?
Would love to hear that it's a part of hitting rock bottom that they all go through before having some real insight and understanding... my well of hope is running dry with all the nastiness I'm experiencing from him.
Just seems back-to-front to me. He's gone from having some understanding of what he's doing to being in complete denial.
