Oh Snodderly, thank you! I, too, believe in miracles and think of their reconnection as one.
You are a keen observer. Yes, there is some frustration on my part. Been thinking very seriously for that in order for me to move on and be able to get my affairs in order I must push the D that H started and stalled on 2 years ago, ahead. I can't do this while in limbo and it is causing me some anxiety. It is not what I want to do, but think I need to do.
I have also seen positive progress, so many I haven't mentioned. Just chalked them up to touch - n - goes. For instance, in Aug, H took the D's to the fair. (ow was out of town) They had a great time, so much so that H texted me and told me it was just like when they were little. A time when we would take them together as a family.
On the same outing, D20 told me they were walking through the concession stands. D pointed out a pink cowboy hat to her Dad that had the words Big B!tch on the front of the hatband. H said, "No thanks, I have one at home." It cracked D up, but when she looked at her Dad he wasn't even smiling. She said he just looked sad.
KD, sorry if I gave you the wrong impression. It has been S26 that disconnected from his Dad when he left. H, would half heartedly try reaching out, but when that would get him nowhere he would refer to our son as a childish a$$.
So, KD, as your D continues to mature and get new perspective on the sitch she may meet you halfway. Hang in there on that.
I would agree that H is emotionally detached from me. He still has maintained that what he did was the best for us. I think it's still justification, but admit that I wouldn't have grown in the ways that I have if he hadn't done it. He is still a long way from admitting to his path of destruction through what was once a very close knit family unit.
Hang in there on that.
