My friend, I dont have much to add as Snodderly and KD have, as usual, offered such great insight.

I do feel that as we are the first person that they cast out, we are the last person with whom they reconnect, for a lot of reasons.

I have always said that if my xh were to really understand the depth of what he's done, it would bring him to his knees. And so, it is so difficult for them to do.

Your h is still in the tunnel. Peeking out a bit and looking at things. I feel that he is not ready to admit that it was not you not because the ow is more important, but, because that would mean he was so very wrong. And he is not able to deal with that now.

There are some very important positives that have happened. I am so happy that your son and his father are starting to reconnect.

This all takes years, S. Your h has to work through a lot.

I hope that this year brings you peace and contentment.

Happy New year.