SA, As you know, I am a firm believer in miracles happening during the Christmas season. I am so very, very happy that a miracle took place in your own home, i.e, the reconnected of your h and your son. This is a step in the right direction. Please keep in mind that reconnection begins w/friends, family, pets long before the reconnection begins w/the lbs.
I think that your h is starting to visit his demons and is realizing that some of his issues were w/the military. Yes, the vets that were in the Viet Nam War were treated very shabbily upon their return, unlike the vets are treated today. I also think he will need to revisit the time period of his father's death and that will come. He's going back in time a little bit at a time. You may think you are still the enemy, but he's slowly but surely going back and revisiting his past life.
I know you are very frustrated and I understand how you feel, but I see positive progress being made from your recent postings. Time, space and patience are what your h needs now. He will come around again and talk to you about things that he is mulling over. Listen and validate.
SA, miracles are taking place in your family and I do feel that your h will resolve his issues and will reconnect w/you some time in the future, but as far are reconciling, he may think that there is too much damage for him to ever return and he also knows that you are a very independent woman. Leave the door ajar and allow him the time to catch up, if that is what you want.
SA, Happy New Year!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
