The things you have said have run through my mind, too. If he has figured out that I wasn't the problem, one might be lead to the logical conclusion that I am not the enemy either. Key word is logical...
Couldn't prove that by H's behavior at D14's Christmas concert. For the first time in 4 Christmases, H and I were at one together. H sat in the aisle seat (as always). He did get up to let me get to the next seat. So I sat down beside him. If H had leaned out over the arm of the seat any further, he would have fallen out into the aisle. lol D14 could see that from the stage.
As for me, I was completely comfortable. H could have been any community member. I no longer have that little thrill in my gut when I know I'm going to see him. I thought, whatever.
On a very bright note this holiday season a blessing has occurred, one that I have been praying for. H and S26 have reconnected. They hadn't talked since H left in Oct., '09. It started in Nov. with emails pertaining to S26's job situation. It has advanced to them talking at Christmas time and S participating in the annual sons and father's day out on Christmas Eve day. S also was down with the family on Christmas morning for the first time. It was also the first year S has accepted a gift from his Dad.
I will admit that even though I provided the homemade cinnamon rolls, appetizers and cookies, it was a little tough being on the outside looking in as my family shared Christmas morning.
