Just to add from my perspective in relation to my sitch...
I think in all fairness, that is all I could ever hope for... that my W at least truly acknowledge in a sincere way (not the WAS/MLC script) that "it's not you, it's me"... again, however that may look.
Of course, I KNOW it was not me. The "deep down" of her need to leave the R was not because of me. I just became the reason as she justified things that were likely not in keeping with her core beliefs as she moved along her new path... Even while I had my own things to "fix"... or perhaps more to the point, to work further, on...
So again, I wish you the best and hope that you can appreciate that, no matter what the future may bring, at least you have the possibility that your H finally realizes at a core level, that it was really... NOT about you. He'll have to resolve THAT within him, eventually, as well.
