Confused at Where I am - Part 2

[GH31]

So wife left yesterday evening for her first night at rental house. Didnt take much with her except essentials.

No surprises there.

Did you offer to help her move her non-essential things?

She was pretty upset when she left and texted me a couple of times up until 6:30 pm ish.

No surprises there.

She said she had to try and do this.

Two quotes come to mind:

"If at first you don't succeed, try try again"

and

"There is no "try". There is either do or not do." - Yoda

At 11:30pm I get a message saying she is coming home because she is scared and lonely.

No surprises there.

You've got to love that Reality Stick.

I didnt say anything and sure enough she walks through the door a little before midnight and gets into bed.

She still has keys to get back in?

Into bed with you or into a different bed?

Again I said nothing.This morning she told me that she just paced up and down crying at the new place and couldnt stand it.

No surprises there.

That's the fantasy crumbling - the wonderful sounds of the Reality Stick breaking it apart.

Im so lost and confused at this point that I have no idea how to react anymore!

Don't react.

RESPOND.

And feel free to take days to do so. This is a marathon, not a sprint.

This doesnt seem productive to me but I dont want to shut the door on her at the moment as she seems so confused herself.

She needs to spend more time with Reality.

Can you ask her, help her to move out again?

Say to her "I love you W, but your affair is destroying my love for you. Please move out as soon as possible. If you find yourself in a position to have complete and utter verifiable "no contact" with OM for the rest of Eternity then I will be willing to discuss our future together. Until then we are to have no contact."

I feel that I should enforce the separation at this point

I would agree with you.

but I am heading for a leisure trip to Las Vegas on Jan 8th and she was going to be staying here for that week anyway. Im thinking I should maybe let it slide until I return but I dont want to appear weak to her.

Go and have a GREAT time in Vegas!!

If you already agreed she would be home for that week, fair enough. Can you ask her to be goneby the time you get back, and all of her stuff?

Also, switch your phone off for the entire time you're in Vegas and give her the gift of missing you.

Be strong.

GH31