Thank you, FY. I haven't been able to sleep, so thank you for your words of encouragement.
I will pull back. I agree it's what I need to do. I still haven't been able to detach, which hasn't been good for me and my emotional health. I will make this my first priority. And I think (at least right now) that what's best for me is to actually move on and focus on my own life and meeting another man to share my life with. We'll see how I feel tomorrow (when I'm more rested) but this is what I feel like doing now. I love my H, but I deserve better. A lot better.
Will try to go back to bed now. Your post really helped, FY. Thank you.