Any thoughts? I will continue GAL'ing and improving myself. I will still ask the L if I can avoid going to the court altogether. I will still ask for extra time just for me. Nothing else I can do but this and let my H go on his own journey of self-discovery.
Sigh.
First of all I want to say you did really well. You addressed the "confusion" subject, which is good.. if you didn't you may have been plagued with regrets later. You also remained calm and composed. Great job!
Unless you want to remain best friends as he moves on to other women, you need to pull back. Be less accessible. Let him see what life without you will be like. You already know that being "perfect on paper" isn't enough in his mind right now... he has to see reality for himself. Let him.
Always remember you are the catch of the day.
If you do this, and get the L to extend the D, you still have a shot.
Don't worry about losing him as a friend... even those in hostile divorces often end up being friendly once a little time has gone by. Stay strong, you can do this!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl