I will get by....

[wishing, hoping]

Hey Heather thanks for connecting. Decided to stay home tonight and avoid the crazies like H. Making spaghetti squash for dinner. I like it with pasta sauce, kids like it with butter and salt. Made some fruit smoothies for lunch as well. Gotta load them up with healthy food so H's junk food doesn't have too much negative impact. Lol!

Lawyer visit was good. We went over mediation papers and property settlement. H is basing his child support offer on what he can afford in order to refinance the house. He is holding getting my name off the house as a carrot dangling in front of me. I told the lawyer then I will take half the credit card and ortho bill. I will get more in maintenance than I will have to pay for those debts. H knows that. He isnt stupid. What's funny though is that he has "lowered his income" by not working overtime (which is the income he uses to declare bankruptcy) but the income he used to calculate child support is higher than his income from last year and way higher than his income from previous years. It makes no sense. Looks like he is playing games. I asked the lawyer isn't child support based on a percentage and he said yes, usually, but apparently he wants me to sign off on a dollar amount so he can qualify for refinancing. And wants me to waive maintenance. What kills me is he expects me to pay for 52% of expenses and he pays for 48% and I have to contribute to his health care premiums plus I have to get my own insurance. How come it seems like I am the innocent party yet I am the one being punished? He makes 3 times the money I do.

I need to breathe. And then he has to call and interrupt my time with the kids. Of course it was cut short because the dog did something naughty. I'm giving that dog a treat.